Couples Counseling & Coaching
Each age has its own topic – from early childhood, through education, career, starting a family and self-fulfillment to the end of life. In all these periods of life there is on the one hand the great opportunity to grow personally through the partnership and on the other hand the risk of breaking it.
In the couple relationship, it is very important to keep checking the balance between personal freedom and the desired degree of connectedness and, if necessary, to adapt it to the changed life situation and changed personal needs.
My Basic Attitude in Couple Counseling & Coaching
My goal is to open up a wider perspective on the relationship. Through a moderated dialogue I open up a protected framework for constructive, appreciative and trusting communication and above all for the development of very personal solutions by you – the couple itself!
Aspects of Intercultural Counseling
Many factors play a role in living together, such as the fact whether one of the partners has immigrated and has to cope with social integration. In addition, religious affiliation, different family traditions, images of gender roles and the level of education – often combined with social status – have a significant impact on the relationship.
The couple counseling offers a protected framework for new experiences that enable individual solutions for the relationship. The existing social models often do not apply to binational partnerships and families. You are faced with the challenge of finding your own way – this is a good prerequisite for developing individual life models.
"Happiness and peace of mind arise to the proximity to a person and the wonderful feeling of being able to develop freely."
– Gerald Hüther –
Course of the Couple Counseling
After the non-binding initial interview, I ask the couples to fill out a short questionnaire on the personal and couple history. The time interval between the 60 and 90 minute couple counselings is agreed individually – usually every 14 days. Individual sessions can also be useful in the course of the couple counseling. The duration of a couple counseling is very different – some topics can be solved within a few appointments.
"If you are looking for the good in others, you will find the best sides in yourself."
– Martin Walsh –
"With her warm, supportive and ingenious nature, Satu helps people! She listens very carefully and also integrates very practical steps into couple and individual therapy." Finnish married couple (both 50 years)
“We have been consulting couples for a few years now. Satu has become a fixed institution for us and our relationship. Even if there is no acute problem to discuss, a moderated discussion about our relationship is good for us, so that we always go home strengthened and satisfied. Satu is always well prepared for our "visit", very attentive, careful and sensitive in conversation. I got the impression that Satu has extensive methodological knowledge that can be used very flexibly and depending on the situation. " German woman (42 years), Finnish partner (44 years)
"As a binational couple, you are often faced with special challenges, but unfortunately there are few therapists who specialize in this field and have special skills in it. It was therefore a stroke of luck to find Ms. Massaly, who herself has intercultural experience, as well as provide good psychological counseling. Her advice has helped me to better understand my own bi-national relationship, to better perceive my “foreign” partner in his needs, but also to analyze my own role in the relationship. Through the conversations I was able to learn to better reflect on my own behavior and feel empowered to master problems better and to have a more balanced relationship.” N.N. German woman, African partner (both approx. 30 years)